a broken vase!

Have you ever broken a vase? accidentally you pushed it from the table, got to a million pieces. and no matter how much glue you put, and you find all the pieces, and put them together, it will never be the same again...it will remain a broken vase. can you ever change that?

can a lost trust be regained again? can relationship be fixed? can friendship ever be the same as before it got broken?

how do you do that? and if you are able to do that, do you forgive, or you rather forget? or neither?

two friends of mine broke up. we thought that they are the perfect couple. when people were dreaming for a great relationship, they were dreaming about them and what they have.

came out that she was cheating on him. really for long. and i can understand cheating somehow, but when he asked her, she sad no, are you crazy to ask me something like that? and continued doing it. till after a week when she confessed and asked for forgiveness.

there is nothing similar as distrust, and seeing that the other party doesnt care. no matter if you are talking about partner, friend, or relative. and then the defence mechanism turns on, pride steps in, and the vase doesnt allows to get fixed. no matter how hard you try.

and now her world is falling apart. her friends have isolated her, and are judging her. they broke up, and she doesnt love the other. she is lonely and sad.

i guess you never know how much you value and need something, till you lose it. and thats the price you have to pay when you were reckless and broke it up.

however i believe that things can be fixed. depends how and when, and will be hard, but can be done. just requires lots of energy and sacrifice. willingness and time too.

on other thought, maybe i am being too optimistic....